This is something I've only recently come to understand: when a friend comes to you with a problem in their lives, they don't want your logical solutions. They only want you to listen.
As a rational person, if there is a problem in my life, I think of ways that I can solve the problem. I am a problem-solver. I think of ways to fix it and then I go about fixing it. Well, not everyone is as logical as I am. Some people like their own anguish. Some people revel in their own distress.
However, I refuse to stop giving my logical advice. I don't mind when people do not or cannot take my advice, but I am just unable to listen without offering up a few solutions.
Update: I've realized that I should never be a therapist or a counselor. My advice would always be: "Your worries are irrational and your problems are made up."
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